Ok, it’s gray around here again.
Yep, that means day of bowls #2!
Today’s breakfast bowl featured PB&J oatmeal, which consisted of:
- 1/2 cup oats
- 1/2 cup almond milk
- 1/4 cup water
- mashed banana
- flax
- pb
- Je’s jam!
I went from EMPTY to FULL in about .005 seconds! Seriously, oatmeal has been keeping me SO FULL in the mornings lately. I love it.
Except, then I haven’t really been hungry at lunch.
But when you have delicious ingredients, you must use them, right?
Yes, you must.
You must use them to make delicious STIRFRY!
So that you can eat it out of a MUG!
With GRAPES!
GRAPES! are so delicious right now, no?
GRAPES! and APPLES! [now I want to go apple picking.]
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So, as you saw my friend Amanda got married over the weekend. [Congrats to her!]
All your comments + my own thoughts got me thinking…am I going to be the last one to get married? Should I be worried that I am not even in a relationship [of any kind?] I mean, most of my friends are married. Gah, some of the even have KIDS! [Mama D. made certain of that not happening by giving birth to a little devil angel at a most opportune time in my life.]
I feel sort of behind, even though I am really happy with where I am in life.
What about you?
Are all your friends married, pregnant or in serious relationships? Do you often find yourself chilling with a cup of coffee watching Gossip Girl alone? [GG is my show of choice, insert your own here.] If you are in the same boat as me, do you find it a little strange? Like everything is happening so fast? And how did it happen?
As to not end this on a downer [not that I am down about that, as stated earlier] can I mention something I am excited about?
CharlotteONE is tonight! Yay, I get to connect! 
Whit
I was one of the only ones out of my friends in a relationship.. most of them are single.. and if all went as planned (my ex had a ring) I would have been the first one married.. Kinda scary to think about.. You are beautiful Whit.. You prince just hasn’t come down in his pumpkin yet
Even though I’m married, I get freaked out by where others are in their lives right now (namely the whole kid thing). I think as long as you’re happy with your life that’s all that matters. Until I met Ross I was completely happy and content with the way my life was. Then I met Ross and knew he’d be the man I’d marry, and so it was a different chapter in life, a new sort of contentment. I’m sure one day when the time for kids comes (LORD PLEASE LET IT BE YEARS!!!!) I’ll adjust to that new type of content.
Does that make sense? It did in my head.
BTW – enjoy gossip girl. Sometimes by watching TV not-alone you may not be watching your favorite shows.
I’ve never seen an episode of GG, and I also never saw an episode of Law and Order or NCIS until I met Ross LOL.
LOVE YOU WHIT!
hey girl..iv been in a relationship for 2 years now but not married. Alot of my friends are actually single
so no worries. but I do hae a select few who are married with children.
Tooooo early for that yet..i think26-28 is a good age
You’ll find a man when God thinks you are ready
I am single and loving it. Most of my friends are so ready to settle down with husbands but I am just not in that place yet — I will be one day but not right now. I say, as long as you are happy then who cares, right! Single, married, dating, whatever!
Awesome looking stir fry! You’re right…. apples and grapes are marvelous right now! I’m at a place right now where most of my friends and me are all married with kids. But as long as you are happy and get along with your friends it doesn’t matter….. Just go with the flow!
-A
Although I am in the most serious of relationships (read basically married) we are not getting married any time soon. As friends get married, move cross country, embark on some huge adventure, me and Brad just continue to be the same, and yeah sometimes it gets me down . . . but I really don’t need to change, because I am happy . . . so don’t go seeing YOUR life through someone else’s eyes! that’s what I say
I’m still young so my friends aren’t married. But they are in relationships and I am not.
Sometimes I do feel that. Sometimes I feel lonely, but at the same time there are so many good things about being single.. I honestly cannot complain. Plus, I just haven’t met the right man.
It’ll happen for us, we just have to enjoy life and not dwell on it.
Girl, you got time!
I was in your shoes…um…well, let’s just say a number of years ago. My friends started getting married at 22, 23, and most of them have babies now. I’m still a single mingle, and it would have TERRIFIED me to know that at 22 I would still be single now. But I truly love it, and I know he’ll come along! I’m keepin’ the faith.
Honestly, a lot of my friends who married young are either divorced or really, really unhappy. Not to be a debbie downer about marriage, but it’s really made me refuse to settle – I think a lot of women do, and don’t realize it at the time.
Anyway, in 5 or 10 years you’ll have your man and your babies – if that’s what you want! I might still be cuddled on the couch with some coffee watchin’ GG.
Love stirfry in a mug!
I’m 24 and was married at 22 right after college. I’m the only one of all my friends to be married, although my ALL my husbands friends are married and were married a year out of High School, people in Iowa are different like that!
Don’t feel pressured if you aren’t there yet, God hasn’t given you the right person yet, but you least expect it will come!
i just got out of a long term relationship and it’s weird being single! i feel like a lot of my friends are in relationships, but most are not married and many are not close to being married so i don’t feel too out of the loop. still, it can be scary sometimes wondering WHEN…although, if i’ve learned anything, things can happen and your life can change in literally ONE day so you just never know! you and i could meet the perfect guy tomorrow and be madly in love and married in a month. okay, maybe not that quickly but you just never know!
I kinda feel the opposite way. I was the first one out of my friends to get married and sometimes I feel like they just don’t understand the place I’m in with my life.
On the other hand, my husband is 8 years older so all his friends are having kids so his friends keep asking us when we’re having babies! NOT ANY TIME IN THE NEAR FUTURE! Give me a fews years to be a newlywed eh?!
I love the fullness I feel after a bowl of oats in the morning!! So wonderful.
I’m single and can definitely relate. I do worry sometimes because honestly, I’ve never been in a “serious” relationship. But overall, I’m happy spending weekends and nights out with my friends and just being present in the moment.
I’m so totally in the same boat as you!!! And I’m 28! Most of my friends are married and have kids or are engaged and on their way to that. Sometimes it’s horrible, but I try to just enjoy being single. Because someday I won’t be single anymore and I might miss it! hahaha. So we’ll just hang in there watching GG on the couch until the right person comes along…. when I put it that way it really sounds quite lovely
everyone we know is getting married and it’s making me feel SOO old//past my prime [even though i'm in a committed relationship...] but honestly, kyle and i have been really intentional about our path together and we know that an early marriage is not in the cards for us. we at least want to be out of school // settled in our lives before making a commitment to each other. i have a really bad habit of trying to take the lead in our relationship and not trusting him as “the man.” so, i know that he definitely will wait until he can support us both before taking a further step. [even though i can support us both now.] different strokes for different folks, though.
i will say that the “frazzled, oh my gosh i need to get married before i’m old” mind set is probably really difficult for a guy to deal with when you’re entering a relationship. [talk about pressure!]
kyle is well aware, however, that i fully intend to get married when i’m at my prime looks wise – because those pictures last forever! haha.
That stinks that you have had two gray days in a row. BOOOO! But yay for oatmeal which was my brekkie too!
Grapes and apples are great right now, you want to know what else is?! PEARS! Oh yea, fall is pear season:)
To answer your question, I am the second of my close girlfriends to get married. I do feel like everyone is getting married ect, until I got engaged. Adam and I were together for 10 years before we got engaged so it did get frustrating!
yummy oats whit!
jenna
I think it’s natural to always be comparing our lives to those around us. 3 years ago I felt as though all of my friends were getting married. I wasn’t in a relationship and although I was happy with my life it was hard not to compare my life to my friends. Fast forward about 2 months and I met a wonderful man. After a few amazing months he proposed and we got married. I never would have dreamed it would happen that quickly. You just never know where you might end up!
Now that I’m married it’s hard not to compare my life to my friends who are starting to have kids. I don’t think it ever ends!
I’ve never been the type of girl who dreamt about her wedding or really thought about getting married. I’ll be 30 next month and just recently moved in with my boyfriend (it took a year for him to talk me into it!). We’ve never talked about getting married and I’m not sure we ever will. We’re happy with what we’ve got going on. I’ve always been an independent person so I guess this is just part of my personality. He joked once that if one of us got laid off from our jobs we’d have to get married so the other could have health insurance….I told him I’d just get a flu shot.
Man, I wish it would get GRAY around here……….but it is still SUNNY here in Florida (surprise, surprise….NOT)!!! =(
Anyway, great looking stir fry! YUMMY!
=) Laura @ Finding A Healthy Balance
I felt that way last year when everyone I knew seemed to be getting married and already on their 2 or 3rd child. Now, I’m in a relationship and have been for 4 years (next month) but were in no hurry to get married. Remember: Everything happens for a reason and at God’s will. I’m happy in my relationship and see no hurry anymore.
I’ve definitely felt that way before, although I’m still in my junior year of college, I feel like ‘time is running out’ but I think that’s just cause as you get older, time seems to zip by. Anyways, I’m sure someone perfect will find their way over to you soon, you’re gorgeous, smart and funny! I love your blog, by the way! I’m Meg. Hope you have a great Tuesday – stir fry looks awesomeee!
Meg
I hear ya on the oats – I just recently switched from having plain old cereal to having oatmeal for breakfast and I swear it keeps me full for HOURS. Love it! (And I love your blog too!)
OH MY GOODNESS! I SO feel where you’re coming from. I recently turned 26 and all of a sudden, EVERYONE is married! I don’t get it. I have another wedding to attend this weekend and I can’t help but feel like maybe there’s something wrong with my life. Don’t get me wrong; I don’t think I need to be married to be happy but why aren’t I following the same path as my friends? Very confusing at times.
Thanks for opening up this discussion on your blog!
girl. every time i get a facebook request from a high school homegirl i am shocked. they’ve all been married for multiple years and most of them have one if not more kids! and they all have bachelors or masters degrees. and i am like what have i been doing for the past 8 years? but then i say, hey janetha.. you love life. you are OK. and i look at my friends around me now and realize that they are all not married either.. sure, a few are engaged and a few have had kids.. but for the most part, they are in the same boat as me. but i won’t lie, it freaks the shit out of me that i am 26 and a half and still doing the same old thing as i was doing 5 years ago (except not as much booze and no more ganja.. ha). BUT thanks for writing this, you really made me feel A-OK about being 26 and unmarried and without kids and without a degree. i have my whole life ahead of me.. i will get there eventually. and so will you. and i am stoked that you are loving life just the way it is! it is all about living life to the fullest in the moment. sometimes hard to do when you stop and look around at *some* people. but their situations shouldn’t be able to dictate how one should feel. ok this was long. love you whit!
Girl, I am 27 and single. Not “single and lovin’ it omg lol” I’m single and sick of it. I was in a serious relationship for 3 years which ended 2 years ago. My longest dating “relationship” since then has been 3 months. I’m at a point in my life where I’m done with casual dating, I need to settle down. I just need to find someone who is worth my time first…*sigh*
i hear ya on the marriage thang. I have 4 friends who have gotten married, and I have been a bridesmaid twice in 1 year…but I am only 22 and I have time! We all have time to grow up and meet Mr Right
Dont worry about getting married and having a family….just concentrate on yourself and thats when the boys come a running to you!
xoxo
Lo
Gorgeous stir-fry! And I had grapes for lunch too. Love them. and apples. Yum
No kids though. That’s scary!
I’m married, so I guess I don’t freak out when my friends get engaged
I love eating from a mug! And engagments freak me out too!!
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I go through periods where I feel like I will surely die alone and then I remind myself that if I do at least I like myself
Before I got engaged to my now ex-fiance, marriage was NEVER something I thought about or evening imagined myself doing. But then I got engaged and planned an entire wedding (yes he called it off after I had planned pretty much the whole thing, ass). And now it’s definitely something I think about because during that whole process I got to feel like a bride and like something special was about to happen.
Now I know that wasn’t the right relationship for me, but I thrive in relationships. I LOVE loving someone so much that I NEED to see them. I love doing special things for that person and making them happy. It just makes me happy. I enjoy being single too though, so I dunno. I just have to trust that God has that guy picked out for me and that we’ll find each other before my ovaries dry up
Sorry for the ramble, just lettin ya know that I feel ya!
And I love that Mama D strategically gave you a baby sis in order to provide timely b.c.
haha, you’re too funny lady.
I just found your blog (through Kath’s) and I feel like I have to comment on this! I’m only 22 but can’t help thinking that my time is running out. It seems like everyone I know is in a relationship and sometimes I worry that maybe all the good guys are taken! I was in a serious relationship for about 2 years before I decided that I needed to date other people. Well its been a year now and I’m still not dating anyone! Anyways, thanks for making me feel not so alone
Most of my friends are single or not in serious, serious relationships bc we all jusssst graduated… I am liking this stage of not being tied down because 22 and single is sort of fun
That said, I’m dreading being the last one to get married. It’s so weird bc I’m such an independent person and really NOT a relationship person–but I also don’t want to be a spinster, ya know? Haha. I think we just need to find boys who want to watch GG and sip coffee with us! Is that too much to ask? Didn’t think so 
Big bowls of comfort oats are a pure necessity on cold grey mornings! Love the full factor.
And stir fry! Thank you. I have been trying to figure out what to cook up since I’m going out of town Friday – stir fries = best leftovers ever! Hurray!
whoa! as long as you are happy and healthy and loving life and eating bowls (or mugs) of delicious nutritious food, you are doing amazing! my hub and I are the ONLY ones of our friends who are married. I never had the marriage and kids dreams, although I was/am open to it, so I never felt the pressure. but, I do love being married! it’s like playing house, but f’reals.
have a great day! I hope the grayness clears.
I’m older than you, and while some are, most of my friends AREN’T married!! Oddly enough I think it varies a ton depending on the part of the country…. for example I grew up in a small town in Indiana where people marry early, but now that I live in Chicago, people marry much later.
You gotta make yourself happy… and you are very accomplished Whit! Be proud of everything you have to offer!
love the stir fry in a mug! I was at my undergrad college homecoming this weekend and some of my close girlfriends are about to become engaged and ready for babies and everything!!!! I am definitely not there yet, I mean we just graduated a few months ago…
Your post really hit me. I have the same emotions sometimes, but like you, I’m happy with my life. It’s odd. . . but cool. We don’t have to have it together. A Man won’t make me any happier, but someday I want one. The challenge is waiting
Don’t feel so bad about being in a relationship, my sister is still single and loving it. I have been in a very long relationship with by BF – and I found both ways good for the two of us. You just have to be happy with who you are and where you are in life. Things will happen— just have to be patient!
I guess you could say I have the exact opposite problem. Most of my friends aren’t married or have children. They are mostly into their careers and some don’t want to have children at all. Not that their choices are bad ones, just different from what I wanted/have. Sometimes I get a little jealous of their freedom and spontaneity. On the flip side though, I love being a mother. My children make it all worth it.
Hi Whit! I’ve been lurking around your blog for a while and this is my first comment because I had to chime in too!
I hear you on what I’d like to refer to as the “what the what??where -did -my- life- go syndrome?” I just had one friend get married, one have a baby, one become preggo, and two move in with their boyfriends. And I am single Sandy!
I feel like I could have written the rest of your post! Amusingly, my Dad is the one who makes me feel most secure about being single – he reminds me how proud he is that I’m an independent woman who never needed a boy to make her feel complete. All the women who independent, throw yo’ hands up at me!
Oh I wouldn’t worry about being the last to get married. Much better to be patient and wait for the right man than to jump into something you might regret later.
And trust me that it is WORTH THE WAIT. My husband is so wonderful and I’m so blessed that we met so early in life.
Sometimes I wish I could see the bigger picture of my life, but that’s never going to happen. Just remember that God has it all mapped out for you. Although we don’t know his timing for things, we just have to be patient and know that He has a plan, and it’s probably a great one!
Mmmm i love your breakie…can you believe I haven’t tried that combo yet?!
I feel ya on the whole marriage/relationship thing…but there IS somebody out there for us! xoxo
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Gray again? Come to AZ! It’s super sunny, all the time. Your stirfry looks fab!
Yea, I know what you mean. I have quite a few morman friends who are also harpists, and even though they’re just a few years older than me, they’re already married. A lot of my other friends who are morman (I seem to know a lot in AZ!) are already married. One of the girls is a few years older than me and already pregnant! So I guess I’m a lil behind on that front, but right now I just don’t have time for a serious relationship. I do feel awfully behind sometimes, so I can totally relate. But don’t get down on yourself, girl! Some people wait a while before having a serious relationship or getting married–it’s not a bad thing!
No worries about the relationship thing, guys are over rated.
Just kidding, my hubby is awesome, but I’ll just tell you, Mr. Right tends to come along when you least expect it…and even when you aren’t ready for it. So keep your eyes and heart open!
don’t get worked up over it – i’m 31 (ouch!) and single. i got out of a serious relationship last year and feel like i still need time to heal…
mostly, i love being single because i’m independent and i can make choices that only have to suit me (like, moving to another country for my job). but i also have moments when i’m sitting on my couch, wondering if i’ll ever find someone or just turn into a crazy old cat lady…? but those are scarce, so all is good.
Wow, I’m really behind on this but I still want to comment!
It seems as though everyone is in a serious relationship around here, and I’m a single gal. And honestly, I wouldn’t want it any other way. I’m extremely selfish at this point, and when I have free time, I want to do what I want to do. (i.e. blog, go out with Muffin, watch Glee, etc.) This was made evident in the last relationship I was in (from Jan ‘09 to May ‘09). My heart wasn’t in it at all and I only wanted to hang with Muff, not my boyfriend. HOW AWFUL AM I! Hahaha. As I watch people with whom I graduated get married and have babies, all I can think is, “oh please, don’t let that happen to me for many, many years.” There are times when I think having a significant other would help keep me occupied. But really, I’m pretty damn happy on my own and enjoy my own company.
I am SO happy so many others are feelin’ their current situations. Thanks for bringing this up, love!
i’m just catching up on your posts form yesterday but had to comment on this one! i’m single too, and i’m also happy about it. i like being single right now. i still can’t believe my best friend is getting married this weekend (granted, her fiance is 31, so that makes a little more sense) – but mostly i feel that we’re still really young. part of it is a product of where i come from – my roommate freshman year of college was from north carolina, and she and all her high school friends are now married with children. but up here, that is much, much less common. personally, i’m still trying to figure out who i am and what i want, and entering into a lifelong relationship seems premature for my constantly changing life.
we’re young dear – enjoy the single life!
holy commenting! janetha talked about this too, and yes, sometimes i do feel behind the times. however, my timeline is different than most. i dont want to get married young – i want to live, explore, travel and do everything first! so i remind myself of that then laugh at all my friends who are already tied down…mu ha ha!
no boyfriend for me, but quite frankly, i enjoy me freedom and independence. enjoy the single life – travel, explore, date! and have fun.
love you girl!
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